How to Talk to Your Partner About Painful Sex
The lights are dimmed, the candles lit and the music matches the romantic mood. And then it hits. That pain that sometimes accompanies sex and ruins the moment. Maybe you scream suddenly as he penetrates or you flinch in anticipation. Dyspareunia, or pain during sexual intercourse, is the surest way to deflate a passionate moment.
Although it’s a difficult subject to broach there are solutions, such as vaginal loosening and natural hormone therapy to help move forward with intimacy and have a satisfying sex life.
Bringing the Pain to Light
Sex can hurt for a variety of reasons and can affect both men and women. More than 25 percent of women report pain during sex throughout their lifetime. During menopause that number skyrockets to 50 percent.
It can be rooted in physical pain, from a past sports injury or chronic illness such as endometriosis, pelvic floor issues or vulvodynia, when there’s unexplained pain around the vaginal opening. Emotional issues can also lead to discomfort during intercourse. Sexual abuse, depression, and anxiety can make sex challenging.
The pain can also be caused by hormonal fluctuations and menopausal symptoms. So, what’s the best way to raise this sensitive issue with your partner? It’s essential that the issue is brought to light otherwise your loved one will be in the dark when it comes to intimacy between you two.
- Sex should not be painful so if it is, let your partner know right away. Try a new position and see if that helps.
- Talk to your doctor. Intercourse should be enjoyable and if it’s not, there could be underlying issues associated with the pain.
- Whether it’s permanent or temporary let your partner know that penetration is painful. Be creative and try toys and oral sex. You can still be intimate!
For those who are ready to put dyspareunia behind them, there are real solutions. Schedule a consultation with Dr. Ghozland today and learn about his revolutionary treatments, The Intimate Renewal available at his Los Angeles location.